DWIL Nation
<p>Long time lurker, sporadic poster. I like cold bottles of champagne [when I'm not pregnant], netflix, and educating myself with DWIL.</p><p>Here is to a thread that won't be dead anytime soon for those with a thirsty llama!!</p><p>BG: I found DWIL in 2014 when my DS was due. Because of this place, my spine has turned super shiny and my DH even questions my sanity because of it. </p><p>When DS was born, my MOO was always around, and there was nothing bad about it. DH was in other state up to 4 months at a time due to his line of work, and the help was great to have. MOO would boundary stomp and I would jade here and there, not wanting 'be the bitch.' Slowly and surely, my spine glistened through the months and finally I put my foot down. I learned how to do it without 'being a bitch' and burning bridges because I love my MOO dearly. She's really awesome and our relationship rocks. </p><p>Currently: We found out yesterday we are having a girl!! This is the first girl on my husbands side of the family in 50 years. That's like 'holy sh*t.' We told my parents and MOO of course cried, because she was hoping we'd have one of each. We called and told PIL after. (BG: PIL live about 3k miles away and only visit once a year, IF that) MIL is a non boundary stomping, religious sweetheart. FIL is nice, and I've learned to shut his weird sh*t down. (Don't get me started on him). So, we call the PIL and inform them we are having a girl. MIL of course cries, but seriously... starts babbling and bawling. Then she goes on with '6 months ago I had a talk with god to give me a girl I could dress up in dresses.' My husbands mouth literally dropped and that was it. She then followed with 'When can I get a plane ticket.'</p><p>The info train was short and before my husband could answer I told her 'You'll get a call because this baby could literally come any day.' In other words, this is a severely high risk pregnancy. She kept on and I told her 'we will call you when we are ready, until then that's the info.' DH said 'Okay mom, good to talk to you, we've got to go, buh bye!' CLICK.</p><p>He told me 'well that was a buzzkill.' No sh*t. I told him right then and there, not to pass on ANY information. Shut her sh*t down immediately that she had nothing to do with us having a girl (we are both Atheist and PILs are SUPER religious).</p><p>Yesterday was the day that told me, we opened a floodgate to baby rabies. I have a rule, if DH doesn't take care of his parents in 24 hours, I will. Not to mention if he throws me under the bus, I'm changing the locks.</p><p>In other words, he agrees with me and will be speaking with his parents today. DS is their 5th grandson. I see them wanting to visit more, sending bows on bows on ruffles this way AND favoritism over our DS. </p><p>Grab your popcorn ladies, because I'm sure I will have monthly updates to the sh*t show and you'll love my responses to PIL. </p><p>... Stay tuned and feel free to give opinions.</p>
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Posted 03-28-17
Sounds like you have sh*t handled. I love your 24 hour rule. Its one I use myself.
"I have a rule, if DH doesn't take care of his parents in 24 hours, I will. Not to mention if he throws me under the bus, I'm changing the locks"
I like you
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Fetchmyeatingpants said:
"I have a rule, if DH doesn't take care of his parents in 24 hours, I …
I did this once and he learned very quickly not to underestimate me.
'You'll get a call because this baby could literally come any day.' In other words, this is a severely high risk pregnancy. "
I think you are giving her way too much credit for pucking up what you are putting down. If you try and stay reassuring they see themselves as a priority for you. If your words could ever be twisted on their favor, they will.
All she heard is that this could happen any day so go ahead and ramp up the excitement, we promise to call as soon as anything happens.
newseattlemum said:
'You'll get a call because this baby could literally come any day.' I…
Good point. I'll call DH and have him tell them no unexpected ideas on their part. If they show up unannounced they can stay in a hotel until further notice. I don't answer the door for unexpected company and I will have no problem telling them NO VISITORS. Thank you for pointing this out.
You may as well lock down your health information. Call your Dr and make sure your info is password protected. Talk to the patient privacy officer at your hospital to make sure your room number etc are not handed out. Don't worry - they have seen crazed/obsessive grandparents before, so you don't need to feel embarrassed.
Better to secure yourself unnecessarily than to have MIL show up mid-way though you getting your vagin* stitched up. (It happens).
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